This is an excellent, important podcast. What especially resonated with me was the discussion of trauma and church culture. The convo with Hillary begins about 35 minutes in. There is a trigger warning prior to the convo. https://ingloriouspasterds.podbean.com/e/054-trauma-spirituality-w-hillary-mcbride/
Thanks to Poetry Circle, I was able to get these words out… Beyond Beyond the cage I locked myself in Beyond the beliefs that strangled my heart Beyond the circle of people I surrounded myself with Beyond the lessons that taught me to fear and judge Beyond the precepts that encouraged me to hide my… Continue reading Beyond
Let’s pretend we’re not human. Let’s pretend life is easy. Let’s pretend prayer solves everything. Let’s pretend our homes are immaculate and that we don’t shove things in a closet or junk drawer when company comes over. Let’s pretend our wallets are always full and that none of us ever struggle financially. Let’s pretend… Continue reading Let’s Pretend
from “Tired Of Trying To Measure Up,” by Jeff Van Vonderen. What is a “shame-based system?” A shame-based system can be a church or group in which the authority figure demands a certain level of performance, whether spoken or implied. If you don’t live up to the standard of the system, messages that are either… Continue reading Shame-Based Systems
I love this talk….
I read this article a few months into recovery from depression and codependency. Along with the help of the book Codependent No More (Melody Beattie), this article helped me to identify and be aware of people in my life who are “skilled manipulators” who I allowed to speak into and control my life; and also… Continue reading Control Freaks
The other day someone said something about me being “so nice”. I’ve heard it time and time again throughout my life. It has been the one quality when I am riddled with shame and guilt that I fall back on and think to myself well, at least I’m still nice. So, in other words, my… Continue reading Ms. Nice