from “Tired Of Trying To Measure Up,” by Jeff Van Vonderen. What is a “shame-based system?” A shame-based system can be a church or group in which the authority figure demands a certain level of performance, whether spoken or implied. If you don’t live up to the standard of the system, messages that are either… Continue reading Shame-Based Systems
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There is no room for pretending in the spiritual life. Unfortunately, in many religious circles, there exists an unwritten rule. Pretend. Act like God is in control when you don’t believe he is. Give the impression everything is okay in your life when it’s not. Pretend you believe when you doubt; hide your imperfections; maintain… Continue reading Unpretending (Messy Spirituality Excerpt)
This book has been a breath of fresh air… “Voices surround us, always telling us to move faster. It may be our boss, our pastor, our parents, our wives, our husbands, our politicians, or, sadly, even ourselves. So we comply. We increase the speed. We live life in the fast lane because we have no… Continue reading REST